One thing that distinguishes the everyday worldly family man in his self-observation from the one that monastic life puts us in when we enter into meditative deep listening and silent attention is that our inner parental couple will not be as influential. Monastic life, if it is also started early, puts us in direct relation to our absolute foundation and in immediate proximity to our mental roots. Whereas, if we seek it later in our lives, we first need to go through the content that the fictional self-image we have created has in relation to them, since it does not have immediate access to our mental sources or to the very foundation of our being in any other way than through the contexts that have provided us with the mental qualities and functions that have been promoted by a certain environment. Since we have separated ourselves from them and see ourselves as a separate existence in relation to the absolute basic state of which we are a part. We see only that which distinguishes us from everything else in the opposites we encounter around us at every moment. Because we constantly seek to circumvent our unresolved relationships to our inner parents by constantly trying to formulate an independent separate self in relation to them, in our mental life. This part of us that we have separated from them separates us further by comparing itself with everything it perceives around it in the mental life everything is a part of in relation to the original ground within us. We compare ourselves as more important than others without it, or as inferior. Even our striving for equality becomes such a comparison. Our conditioned social contexts in this way limit our independent relationship to our mental life and to a self-observing and unadulterated relationship to the original ground within ourselves.