We create most of our problems just to have a sense of being in control of ourselves and other people. It is a compulsive way of looking for a purpose in life. Because it only makes people feel trapped and inclined to defend themselves from its influence, and we become self-inflicted victims of our own attitude. Often we do not even recognise that this hostility is created by us trying to take control of our environment without listening to anything other than our ”solution” to a problem we have created for ourselves in the first place. Just think of what this can lead to if we are talking about someone in a leadership position.