We all try, more or less, depending on how present we are in relation to our mental equilibrium, to find a balance between our impressions, impulses, and instincts, in between our inner person and their original psychic sources by the states and reaction patterns they habitually create. Trying to do it for others is impossible and only leads to us feeling inadequate, frustrated and even inferior. We can only find our own balance between their sources and the compensations we ourselves make of them in our relationship to them and our own mental equilibrium. But by promoting equanimity in others we also generate it in ourselves, and the other way around. Not by trying to be it in others for them but by concentrating on it in ourselves because otherwise we are only back in the constant repetition of compensations and immature and childish mental dependencies on ideas, personal memories, collective history and sensations that arise around us in others’ compensations of the inner equilibrium in them, where we are incessantly trying to restore our own inner balance in the relationship we have with it through others, since we for various reasons do no longer have access to it in ourselves. In this way, we shape our lives according to others’ compensations for it and become spokespeople for how others’ mental balance is compensated within them. Not for the experiences we ourselves have of equanimity in relation to how we ourselves act based on it in our own personal lives. Establishing it is also where the original source of wisdom and mental healing appears as the insight that by itself naturally guides us with the right attention. But we must not get too attached to this equanimous function, because then we risk creating an impossible standard for ourselves and others to live up to. Because it is a mental balance that is part of life, where morality is something embodied in the experience of this balance, and not something we should judge ourselves and others by. Without equanimity, there is no genuine morality, no absolute essence of being, but only a concept of what it is and not a direct personally perceived experience of it. We become capable of almost every conceivable horror and abuse because without our mental balance we lack the fundamental state of mind that makes the true sincerity it implies a real and living reality. That’s what our conditioning does to it, and it becomes our world.