When we do not yet have a relationship with our inner person, neither do we have it with our expectations, with our wishes, our desires, our reluctance, or with our ability to fend for ourselves. They are intermingled together with our surroundings. They arise within us and we express them like a child. As if they were something that our surroundings have the task of fulfilling for us. Since we are not yet psychically present in relation to our inner person, we are not yet able to bear that relation within ourselves. Just like a child, we express every impulse as it arises, and in a dependent relationship to the collective mind. Because there is not yet anyone within us with whom we can observe them with. We have not yet developed this connection. Most often we cannot accept a rejection. That others have needs and commitments that are not associated with ours. Instead, this child or suppressed inner person, feels hurt and neglected and perceives itself as if it have been displaced into a non-existence. In a traditional or psychic sense, we have not yet undergone our second birth. We have not yet learned to pay attention to and observe the content that arises in the psychic maturation process that takes place in the relationship between us and ourselves. Most of the difficulties that conjures up in ’adult’ relationships can be found in the fact that this relationship has not yet been understood, and has become part of the ongoing self-observation it implies for our impressions and impulses. We only see ourselves, and what we want others around us to do in order to avoid the task we have to face, the content of the ”loneliness” it implies which we also share with everyone else. I compare it to a wild animal. By wild, I mean that it is characterized by its congeners in their natural environment. Its and ours social conditioning. If something happens early in either of their lives, say a wolf, a bird or a deer, and they are taken care of and allowed to grow up without being influenced by their natural collective surroundings. Their natural instincts for life in that environment are not favored and instead they are allowed to grow up in safety where their needs are satisfied without the common instincts of the species taking precedence. In that environment with people, and other animals they are weaned from group behavior and become more individual. They also socializes outside of one’s own species and acquires relationships beyond it. I see them as having been separated from their natural circumstances, from their instinctive behavior, and in their individuality developed a relational capacity that goes beyond the collective identity, its impulses, instincts and behavioral patterns. We experience them as more individual. With more distinguishable individual characteristics.
The bottom line is that when we go through periods of conscious self-reflection, and we, against the background of our self-learning relationship with our inner whole, can translate the innocent relationship we then have into circumstances where it can take precedence and our individuality can develop in its own maturation processes and under safe conditions, it is something that will make us more individual together with others against the background of the inner self-learning whole we share with all life. This was once common knowledge among many elders in all traditional societies. Something that is no longer associated with our inner experiences today, but something we have rationally transformed into idealized notions and repressed as the inner pollution and mental clutter we perceive of the world of the senses today.