When a person loses his or her direction of the self, he falls into a pattern in which he or she attempts to separate everything into two opposing extremes (i.e. good vs. evil, true or false, ). Also, this person will try to always agree with one of the extremes. Doing so creates tension and stress, as this person seeks to continuously either try to prove his or her opponent to be incorrect. This person will also try to convert his or her opponent to accept his views. If this person cannot convert his opponents to accept his or her views, then he tries to oppress these opponents. This reveals this person’s need to control others who are different than him or her-self, as well as his or her fear of those who are different than him or her-self. If this opponent chooses to react to this oppressor, this opponent becomes a victim to the oppressor. Soon both the oppressor and victim need each other to exist. This creates an unhealthy cycle of abuse which leads to death and little (if any) soul development, as the thought processes of both the oppressor and the victim become addictive.
— The Lakota Way