Everywhere in life I have found myself in situations, and in environments, that are both smaller and larger than the scope of my personality. I think it is an experience that starts from birth and then being part of us as a timeless practise of a constant inner development to which we are invited. It is also something that makes us feel guilty for being forced to transgress its limitations or made us feel inferior for not fitting in. We can similarly end up in many different relationships that affect us in the same way. Which will lead us to seek our expression for that which does not fit in to them somewhere else. Or lead us to those who cause us to cultivate what is already within us of our objective psychic properties, and support a context of that for it to begin to grow and become a reality to us. This creates a constant conflict between opposites within us as we mix them up. We often blame one of our relationships for not being large enough to accommodate us too, or that they reduce us too much so that we or someone else cannot also fit their person in it, which will exclude us from ourselves. But there is no moral guilt in either giving vent to our psychic development or to our reluctance to allow ourselves to be diminished. Both we and others change all the time. If we don’t allow ourselves to grow, our relationships won’t grow with us either. Here life have its own moral within itself, and I think this is what the traditional teachings of Sáivu was all about in Sami, and the concept of what individuation is today. Something that forces all parties in any relationship to grow in step with the larger scale that each individual change creates within them together. Guilt arises naturally if one party in any relationship diminishes the other’s growing or greater psychological scope. There is no guilt in giving our inner person the genuine psychic nourishment it needs to be able to move us closer to what nature wants us to be. Sometimes it has to happen outside the frameworks others set up for us and the ones we set up for ourselves. That’s how we extend the scope of our reality.