If my mind is the relation that I claim to have to the contents of my being, then any relation that I may have to it, must be conditioned on what wells up from this being every day.
It is independent of me, and of any one of us. It is not something that we make up by our selves. We are a small part of this spontaneous content making itself known to us while it is becoming aware of itself.
What we loosly call consciousness, is only what we choose to relate to for some coherency to make us have a sense of individuality. We even tend to personalize the origin of its content, in spite of the fact that it emerges from the outside of our mind. So all of our widely separated personal claims of ideas are just going to make us feel disconnected from our selves because they will no longer have a relation to our being.