It suddenly dawned on me that the rational language and words of psychology has become the only acceptable way for an individual in our collective to mediate any of his or hers inner life, if he or she want to be taken as a serious witness to any form of order behind our individual experiences. Any other way is viewed upon as outdated and is going to be treated with suspicion, or it will be regarded as insubstantial.
It will even be ridiculed and considered naive.
But this is how to present subjectivity if we really want to get listened to, or want to be taken seriously. It is how we can try to enter that world from the inside. Not through any direct individual experience. You are not allowed to turn the world inside out.
Just bring any such subject up in a discussion, pay attention to how people react and first take a more imaginary and descriptive approach. Try to describe things in in your own words. Then change that by referring to psychology and the accepted wordings of this approach and everyone is suddenly going to feel much more comfortable.
The more impersonal you get the more comfortable they will feel.
It is really taking something heartfelt and sincere out of us as individuals in any given situation to do that. And it is even painful at times.
But we are going to get ourselves a new perspective on this small minority that we like to call individuality by reconnecting consciously to the world in this way. And maybe, just maybe, we can live without hitting everyone in the head with a hammer to see if we can get through to others in our own way.