We do not live and experience ourselves only through our bodily reality, by identifying with it as our physical reality and the gender it conveys. We also have a psychic consciousness that can be described by us as the experience of a presence of our own opposite sex. Which makes us reflect on ourselves and feel involved psychically with others. We constantly oscillate between the image we have created of ourselves and our bodily existence, and the shared psychic consciousness we are in with others through the experience we have within ourselves of our own interior opposite. Our partners will make us aware of that whether we want it or not. A woman can become extremely irritated by a man’s undeveloped psychic consciousness, or interior counterpart when reflection turns into a psychic absence or self-pity in the same way that man can become equally frustrated with a woman’s absent mindedness and over-detailedness that misses its own overall context of becoming its own individually ongoing self reflection. In both ways, we identify and rely too much on the self-image we have created for ourselves in our adaptation to the demands and expectations that the environment places on us regardless and even condescending to the relationship we have with our personal psychic counterpart. Often to the point of completely neglecting the opinion of others for the content of that image. It will then instead have a coercive and sadistic influence on us and expresses itself in tormenting self-criticism for the spontaneous influence our inner partner have on us because its effect on us is not considered as “real”. We have a neglected and undeveloped relationship to the importance it has in our lives. So instead we are affected by it in a way that completely destroys the self-image we have built up and identified with when the force of our nature compulsively, for the sake of our psychological balance again tries to find an expression for what it is in itself for us in our lives. The tension this creates tear us apart. But we also discover that we have a parental couple within us that we have been together with for long enough. They now mediate a relationship with what is within us that opens up a larger cohesive psychological whole. A participation in the life processes and inner forms that lie behind all life and that our inner being is in and shares with everything else. There are many ways to describe it. I have only peeled off what I use for my own sake to make it more visible for others as well. But each of us must find our own language for what our relationships look like in this larger sense. Initially it is quite a brutal ride which later turns into a day to day challenge. That which we are confronted with to be able to face the spontaneous impulses that so obviously affect others as if they were also our own, and we must face at the same time they simultaneously arise in ourselves. It is that which is going to make us feel authentic. With an expanded sense of what reality can be and what it means to us in that which is behind all the words I use to refer to what it is.