The relationship we have with the person within us also has an indirect connection to our inner parents. If it is not listened to, it ends up in a dependent relationship with their external representation for confirmation. Because the father figure constitutes the cultural relationship to the communication between the person within us and the center of our inner whole. The wholeness and connection that the mother figure in a cultural sense creates belonging and context for. Without them, we become in a psychological sense dependent sons and daughters who, through our good behavior and compliant exterior, hope to be treated in a way that gives us a peace of mind and benefits through those they woo with this behavior. It also means that we absolve ourselves of our psychic responsibility because we imagine that we are only doing good. Not that our flattering behavior and feigned goodness basically only have selfish motives and desires that aim to give us benefits through those to whom we bestow this influence over us. It becomes a naive way to try to force others around us to make up for our passivity and at the same time protect ourselves from evil by dressing ourselves in an unrealistic goodness, or fend ourselves from the irresistible figures or attractants that others need to come to terms with on their own. We cannot avoid that painful things happen to us, or that people compensate for the bad things they have experienced by then exposing others to the suffering they themselves have experienced. Another way to control others with good behavior is through hierarchies, originally it meant ’rule of a high priest, of sacred rites’, a gradual chain of being, where the top of the hierarchy means unreserved access to our wholness. Not an external permission of access to ourselves by a compliance compensated by being structurally allowed to behave towards others in the same way as we ourselves are treated. To just give in to our inner figures, to their form and energy. Where we then expect to be rewarded for our good behavior, not for what we actually expose others to, or fail to notice in our own behavior. That said, the cultural function of our inner parent couple is of essential importance for the individual communication between our inner person and the self-regulating center we find in the original whole it unites us with. We create both the suffering we see and what we experience within ourselves through our neglect to listen to our inner parents, and to the important function they have for us in our realization of the relationship we have between us and ourselves.