We shape our societies according to how we have been taught to be one-sidedly factual and exhibit a constant dissociative doubt in our relationships and in our approach to life. To the point that we will completely disregard allowing ourselves to be publicly touched by others in a participatory, empathetic and kindly accepting way. Where the relationship between us and ourselves is also the relationships between others and themselves in the psychic field of relationships where we go beyond our undeveloped attitudes and opinions about each other. Where we refer to ourselves as part of a similar psychic context that affects us from there in our own unique way but we nevertheless shares with everyone else, and where this content becomes a guiding principle for how we look upon ourselves and each other. Using the same technical language references to both of them is only injourious to our sense of affinity and will deprive us of a more profound way of relating to each other. Empathetic and participatory relations requires another kind of language, and has psychic presence and attention as its source.