It is truly both a humbling and a crushing experience to realize that one cannot change another person. That the conflict we have within us is something between us and ourselves. That we have personally colored biographical material mixed up with the figures within us that convey the psychic energy that we convert into experiences. Conceptualizing it using old Sami terms, it was mainly Máttaráhkká and Máderáhttje who, in relation to our parents, became the carriers of their biographical material. But they exist within us regardless of how we were influenced by our parents. Máttaráhkká and Máderáhttje act on us based on our psychic reality apart from that. So until we can see them within us as independent of our parents, we cannot distinguish between us and other people in the personal material that we confuse them with. Everything becomes one and the same thing. Nor can we see what Máttaráhkká and Máderáhttje convey to us beyond themselves in what is their psychic reality, it does not matter what we say, what we do or think we understand, as long as they are not separated from the biographical material, they are not visible. Instead, our psychic direction is constantly pre-occupied with settlements in the biographical material. The psychic intellect is in a state of innumerable repetitions originating from those who filled us with their personal content, and with the reservations that causes conflicts within them. But our nature and its own inherent self-regulating counsel and guidance knows nothing of this. That is why it is so important for our inner balance that we can relate to Máttaráhkká and Máderáhttje in how they support us separate from our biographical experiences. The conflicts that arise within us between them and the biographical material, are balanced not by our relations to their external origins but by how they relate to our nature and its inherent self-regulating center. Which we also discover everywhere in everything and everyone around us. But when we in our relationships are used to give voice and life to the inner conflict people have between their biographical material and our original parental couple, we just become what it is that is of concern to them. Their traumas, inner contradictions and phobias continue within us as if they were our own.