Child-people and psychologically undeveloped people often attribute to themselves a freedom of responsibility in their relationships with others and other things. I don’t mean immaturity as in the natural oscillation we make when we alternate between the opposite pairs of the inner discovering creative child and the older, more mature person who reflects psychically on the experiences they have together, but the kind of freedom from guilt that comes from simply saying that we are who we are. Not that we also both influence and are influenced by other’s alternately even if we ignore this. Distancing oneself also exerts influence because one’s own alienation creates it in others as well. A human debt of psychic presence which is then instead transferred to someone else to bear and take responsibility for. Most often, it is something we pass on to our children in this way for them to act out on our behalf and then in turn pass on to others and their children in an endless succession. We also hide this freedom from guilt behind ideas, group affiliations and individuals who then act as shields and scapegoats for the immature psychological abscence of inner reflection we subject others to. Psychic reflection is what we make of our experiences when we have oscillated long enough between our inner opposites. Like with the experienced wise man and the merculiar maturing person within us, that creative and curious other. Or the joker and the haughty besserwisser. The saint who is identical with the conventionality of the general consciousness, and the villain who questions and offends it. But also the martyr who submits to and bears the guilt and lack of genuine human relationships of others as his own, and the savior who missions his penance. In the end, they are united when we understand our experience of their kind of influence on us. It’s not about us just being who we are, but how we translate the human experience of our interaction with what we are.